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Galatians 5:22,23--But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 

Proverbs 14:29--A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. 

DEFINITION: 
Patience = slow to get angry 

7 KEYS ON HOW TO MANAGE MY ANGER

1. Resolve to manage it. 

Proverbs 16:2 [LB]--It is better to be slow-tempered than famous; it is better to have self-control than to control an army. 

2. Realize the cost. 

Proverbs 29:22 [LB]--A hot-tempered man starts fights and gets into all kinds of trouble. 

• Proverbs 15:18 [GN]--Hot tempers cause arguments. 

• Proverbs 14:29 [LB]--...anger causes mistakes. 

• Proverbs 14:17 [GN]--People with hot tempers do foolish things. 

• Proverbs 11:29 [LB]--The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left. 

3. Reflect before reacting. 

Proverbs 29:11 [NEB]--A stupid man gives free reign to his anger; a wise man waits and lets it grow cool. 

Why am I angry? 

• Hurt 

• Frustration 

• Fear 

4. Release anger appropriately. 

Ephesians 4:26 [GN]--If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin. 

Proverbs 29:11--A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. 

How do you respond to anger? There are 4 possible options, but 3 of them don't work.

• Don't repress it. 

• Don't suppress it. 

• Don't express it. 

• You confess it. 

5. Re-pattern my mind. 

Romans 12:2a--...be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 

6. Relate to people who are patient. 

Proverbs 22:24-25--Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared. 

7. Rely on Christ's help. 

Romans 15:5 [LB]--May God who gives patience, steadiness, and encouragement help you live in complete harmony with each other--each with the attitude of Christ toward the other. 

Small Group Discussion Questions: 

• Which of these 7 steps to managing anger are most helpful to you and why? 
• Review the points and Bible verses from this lesson. What personal application can you make from this week's teaching? 
• Who do you know that exemplifies biblical patience and what have you learned from them? 
• Take some time right now to pray for the needs of those in your small group. 

*Scripture is quoted from the New International Version unless otherwise noted.
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